Would You Give $100K to Your Ex’s New Family?

0:06 So I saw two things on social media that I want to run by you, and I want to see what you would say. Now, preface this, I I don't know exactly. I have no idea what she's about to say. So this is gonna be my honest take right away. All right. So I'm gonna read this to you, okay? All right. My ex and I have been divorced for a few years. We were married for seven years total and never had children. He remarried after we separated and had a child with his new wife. He recently passed away unexpectedly, and I received notice that I will be that I am still the beneficiary on his life insurance policy for$100,000. His wife found out and is asking me for the money because she has a child with him.

0:49 It's not my responsibility to keep his policy beneficiaries updated. He should have done that. Am I the asshole for wanting to keep the money and not give it to his new wife and child? And what options do I have to contribute to his child but not his wife? What you gotta say? First and foremost, that's one of the reasons why I said you gotta do an annual checking of your beneficiaries to make sure that everything is up to date because especially the age that we're at, we are in the season of unfortunately we have friends that are getting married, getting remarried, and you need to make sure all that stuff is up to date and it's the way that you want it to be.

1:29 Yeah. Uh hello, you got a divorce and you didn't update your beneficiaries. Yeah, that's yeah. I mean, and I I've seen that scenario happen one time. Yep. Um now, is that person is that person the asshole? See, like what should she do? Should she get the money? So the thing for me is that since there is a child involved here, that's to me is the the make or the the make or break factor. Reason being is that what I'm saying, regardless of what happened between the woman who received the money, her ex-husband, and her ex-husband's current spouse, there's still a kid involved here that needs to be taken care of.

2:13 So if that money would be needed to take care of that child, a hard for me, that'd be hard to take away from an innocent child that has nothing to do with any dynamics of what other relationship might be. Because, for example, like maybe you're, you know, maybe the husband cheated on her with this you know new spouse, whatever. Yeah, I don't that was not detailed. I have a hard time not giving money to the kid. Now, if she wants to bypass giving the wife money to use because for whatever reason, maybe there's something that had gone on there, she literally could just put the money in the 529 plan for the kid. Okay. And that would limit, or she well, and that would limit.

2:54 Well, I take it back. So if you put in the 529 plan, you still can can't pull it out, but then you're penalized on it. So if she wanted to specifically give the money to the kid to make sure that, you know, it's used for the child, there are ways to do that. But I would assume that it's like current living expenses and not future college education expenses. Yeah. So like it's tricky. If yeah, it's if it's current living expenses, that's just gonna it's gonna be a headache for you or over a hundred thousand dollars. Like I mean, you know me. If I was newly married to somebody who was previously married to somebody else, I'm gonna say, have you updated your beneficiaries?

3:39 Yeah. But like people don't do that. No, they don't. And the thing is, too, is that that that's not on that's not on whoever put the life insurance policy in place. No, that's on whoever owns the policy. Yeah, that's on the person who owns the policy. They need to update it, they need to reach to reach out to the person because the person who put the policy in place may not even be, you know, in finance anymore. They might not even be alive. Right. Oh my god. But you need to make sure that your policy is updated and the correct beneficiaries on there. Sounds like a terrible situation. Like I said, for me at the end of the day, if the money's for a kid, I'd have a hard time keeping it. Now, for example, if there wasn't a kid. Oh, my money. Okay. So if there I knew I knew you were gonna say that. So if there wasn't a kid, then it's like too bad, so sad, he should have updated the beneficiaries.

4:25 But because there's a kid, you're like, Yeah, no, do the right thing and make sure that the kid gets the money. No kid. No kid, no money. Like, you have the wrong number. You wouldn't you try to call me. Well, I'm I was also thinking when I read this, because like legally, how would the new wife know that the insurance went to She could only assume she wouldn't because you wouldn't actually legally be able to find that out, right? No, because so like in that scenario, if the current wife knew there was a life insurance policy and then she calls in about it, basically what she's gonna get is that you're not named as a beneficiary, we cannot give you any information.

5:06 And you've had to do that. Yes, yeah. That's and it wasn't yeah, it wasn't a policy I put in place, it was like one that I kind of inherited from somebody else. But yeah, in that scenario, but she could probably assume that his ex-wife is probably the one that's on the policy, and that's where you kind of go from there. But legally, she wouldn't be she wouldn't be afforded any information. Yeah. Uh we would love to hear from you guys about this. What do you think? What would you do if this was a scenario that you were in? Would you keep the money or would you make sure that the money somehow goes to that child? Definitely let us know, comment, slide in our DMs, send us an email. We want to hear from you.

5:48 All right, I had one more. Let me just keep recording. Yeah, it might just be easier. Okay. And then you can splice it. Oh, where was it? I thought I took a screenshot.

7:04 If we're not gonna do it, I need to eat something. No, it's I literally why? I've I've eaten, but I ate before you got back, so I've I ate like four and a half hours ago. Okay. Okay, well I'll try to find it and then we can just keep the setup like this. And I swear it. Alright, I'm just gonna stop a second.